This magazine keeps you up-to-date with the best in public speaking, communication, confidence and emotional intelligence. In this edition you'll find practical, easy-to-follow tips to help you overcome the fear of public speaking. You are welcome to forward this newsletter to your colleagues, family and friends.
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In this edition:
- The background on the fear of public speaking, plus news.
- Five tips on dissolving public speaking fears and anxieties.
- More tips to help you overcome public speaking nerves and phobia.
- Learn more ways to overcome the fear of public speaking.
- Laugh your socks off.
1. Background.
How often have you dreaded the thought of speaking in public? Is it every time someone asks you to give a presentation at work or do your nerves only flare at the big events? Probably you experience nervousness in public speaking at some time or other. The fear of public speaking is a common affliction. Today we are going to look at how to dissolve public speaking fears so you can stand in front of an audience with confidence. Read on to the tips section to find out how.
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Exciting News: NEW! book on public speaking now available.
This week our new E-book "Overcome the fear of public speaking - forever" has been released. I'm rapt! It's been a long time in the writing because I have pulled so many ideas together and integrated them all into one comprehensive guide. There are 110 pages of tips and strategies for understanding and dissolving your fears about public speaking and turning you into a confident public speaker. Click here to order now.
Welcome new readers.
Welcome to you if you are one of our 40 new readers from around the world, this fortnight. We have new readers in Australia, China, Canada and the USA.
Competition winner.
The winner this fortnight, of a free E-book from our range, is suebrand, from Australia. If this is you, please contact us to claim your E-book prize by Sunday 23rd August 2009:
Sorry this newsletter is late - Fran, my personal assistant, has been away sick.
2. The TOP TIPS: Five initial steps to dissolving public speaking fears and anxieties.
Tip 1: Find the right strategy for you.
There are many strategies that will help you build your confidence. You need to search for the technique that is best and right for you.
Despite what some advertisements would have you believe, there is no one right way that "cures" all.
There is no one right way to develop confidence. There are many ways.
These vary from imagining the audience naked, (something I have never wanted to do!), deep breathing and associating positive memories with speaking, through to practising meditation, using the Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT) and doing physical warm-ups. The list is very long.
Search for the right fear elimination technique and confidence trigger for you.
The right trigger for you may not work for anyone else, but if it works for you that is all that matters.
Tip 2. Practise being confident!
Confidence is a skill that can be learnt. What you think, imagine and do can increase or decrease your confidence. It is important to practise being confident. Don't expect instant confidence. Help yourself to achieve it.
Do not put off practising because the skills seem new, different or unnatural. All new skills can seem strange, uncomfortable or unnatural at first, simply because they are new. PRACTISE.
It is like learning to drive a car. You don't get in a new car never having driven a car before and expect to drive well on your own, without first having driving lessons and practising. Don't expect therefore, to be an excellent confident speaker without also receiving instruction and practising.
If you are ready to take the next step to becoming a confident public speaker and eliminating your public speaking fears and anxiety:
There are some things you need to START doing: start thinking, saying and doing the things that build confidence.
And, there are some things you need to STOP doing: stop thinking, saying and doing the things that destroy confidence
What will you do? The choice is yours.
Tip 3. Stop the thoughts that frighten you.
Your thinking and the energy these thoughts generate can increase or decrease your fears, nervousness and anxiety.
People are often nervous in public speaking because they think about:
- The things they imagine will go wrong, and how upsetting this will be.
- The things that have gone wrong in the past, and how agonising this was.
- How dreadful they will feel.
- How bad their speech will be and the associated embarrassment.
- How difficult the audience will be and how scary this will be.
And then they believe they are right.
Your first step is to STOP saying such negative things to yourself.
Yours second step is to not believe such thoughts if they do occur, and to remove the power they presently have over you.
Your thoughts are neither necessarily right nor true.
Public speaking dread becomes a reality through repetitive negative thinking and the strong emotions associated with the thoughts. The good news is if you can teach yourself to be nervous, you can also teach yourself to be confident.
Tip 4. Manage the anxiety and fear
There are three things I want you to know about emotions such as anxiety, fear and nervousness when speaking in public:
- They can be prevented from arising.
- If these emotions do arise they can be managed so they have minimal negative impact.
- If they start to arise they can be stopped from building and getting worse.
Emotions are not good or bad, positive or negative. They just are! It is what you do with them that matters.
Learn to manage the emotions rather than avoid public speaking. There are masses of tips on how to do this in the new E-book "Overcome the fear of public speaking".
Tip 5. Start thinking like a confident speaker.
Confident speakers react positively to public speaking. They don't tell themselves all the problems they'll meet. They know that will stop them from being confident. An important step therefore, if you want to increase your self-confidence when speaking in public, is to start thinking like a confident speaker.
Every time you think of speaking, think of it positively. Say positive things to yourself about it, how you will cope and the applause you will get.
For example, you might think:
 | They are more worried about themselves than me.
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| They will be wondering what I am going to do to them.
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| Great! Lots of women in the audience, they always laugh.
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| It is only ten minutes, it is so short.
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| It is not the end of the world - they have bombs in Iraq.
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| I have done my research; I know this will be new for them.
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| I know my stuff.
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| I must make sure I get there early to greet them as they arrive.
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Or you could consider not even thinking about it at all. Just concentrate on what needs to be done and doing it.
I don't really think about speaking. I concentrate on writing the speech, rehearsing the speech, preparing my power-point presentation, putting together a handout, getting my clothes ready and having a good night's sleep. I don’t think negatively ... and sometimes I don't think at all about it. I just do it.
When you start thinking as a confident speaker does, you are building your own confidence.
3. More tips to help you overcome the fear of public speaking.
Each month new tips are placed on our page of Personal Development Tips and Articles.
There are several sets on public speaking anxiety and nerves for you to read. Click on the links to read three of them:
- Five easy ways to overcome nervousness in public speaking.
- Five ways to cure your public speaking stage fright.
- How to sound confident when public speaking.
4. Learn more ways to overcome the fear of public speaking.
"Overcome the fear of public speaking - forever"
Do you fear public speaking? Are you anxious, nervous or worried whenever you even think of speaking in public? Do you avoid it at all costs? Yes! Now is your moment. Here is your comprehensive guide to curing public speaking nerves. There are over 110 pages of anxiety reduction strategies, fear elimination techniques and public speaking tips. You don't have to be like this anymore. Ditch your public speaking fears forever. Turn your fears into confidence.
Click here for more details.
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5. Laugh your socks off.
Thanks to our Confidence 4 U reader, John Ingram, for this fortnight's joke.
Speaking Welsh
On a beautiful summer's day, two English tourists were driving through Wales.
At Llanfairpwllgwyngyllgogerychwyrndrobwyllllantysiliogogoch
they stopped for lunch, and one of the tourists asked the waitress,
"Before we order, I wonder if you could settle an argument for us. Can you pronounce where we are, very, very, very slowly?"
The girl leaned over and said, "Burrr ... gurrr ... king".
If you have some clean jokes we can use, please send your contributions to
It's impossible to cover all the ways to overcome the fear of public speaking in one short newsletter - the book tells you so much more.
If you still need help in getting rid of your fears, and you are in Western Australia, a limited number of individual presentation coaching sessions are available: usually people only need one session to overcome their fear. Visit the coaching page on the website: http://www.rachelgreen.com/coaching.html for more details or e-mail me to make a time:
Let's get rid of your fears for ever.
With kindness,
Rachel.
Further information for you
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