This magazine keeps you up-to-date with the best in public speaking, communication, confidence and emotional intelligence. In this edition you'll find practical, easy-to-follow tips to make coping with change and the associated emotions easier. You are welcome to forward this newsletter to your colleagues, family and friends.
Written and published by Rachel Green.
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In this edition:
- The background on coping with change, plus our NEW WEBINARS for you.
- Five tips on how to cope with change and the associated emotions.
- More tips on learning how to cope with change and anxiety.
- Learn more ways to become relaxed and calm during times of change.
- Laugh your socks off.
1. Background.
Frustrated? Anxious? Overwhelmed? Finding it hard to keep up? Never before have there been such swift and extensive changes to cope with.
The pace of technological change is incredible. Each time I buy a new mobile phone, camera or computer there are more functions on them than ever. I still remember when a phone was only a phone, we used typewriters and there was film in cameras!
Then of course there are economic changes in this time of global recession, economic downturns and stimulus packages. Also, we all experience change in the workplace, in our bodies, our relationships, our jobs, our families ... and on the list goes. How are we meant to keep up with it all, adapt and stay sane? Read on to the tips section to find out.
Our News:
We have an exciting change - we are going to start running WEBINARS. I am so excited by these. For a long time I have been concerned that I do not offer enough to people outside Perth in the way of courses, workshops and coaching. Although our job interview coaching can be accessed by anyone in Australia, or outside Australia, there has been nothing else on offer for newsletter readers. This is now all going to change. Our webinars will be accessible wherever you are in Australia and wherever you are in the world.
What is a webinar? Quite simply it is a seminar held on your computer. Each one will last an hour. Each one will be on an expert topic of direct practical value to you. Each one, like a seminar, will cover a range of skills in a specific area.
The easy part for you is you do not have to travel anywhere. All you need is a computer, an hour of your time and an Internet connection. Broadband is preferable, but dial-up will still work, just not as well.
The five advantages of webinars:
- You do not have to travel anywhere to attend, so it is ideal if you are busy.
- You get direct access to me wherever you are, whether you are in rural, remote areas, in big cities or small towns.
- Your level of involvement is completely under your control. Unlike a workshop where you have to be seen, interact with a group and participate in role-plays and group exercises, here you can choose your level of involvement. (Ideal for those of you who hate role-plays!)
You can be anonymous. Apart from my staff, and myself no one else on the webinar need know you are there. This is ideal for those of you who are shy or anxious, (or famous).
You can send questions in advance and have me answer them during the webinar.
You can type questions during the webinar and send them to me to answer, but without needing to speak out-loud and be heard by other participants.
Or, you can indicate you have a question during the webinar and you can be heard asking the question. However, I control the questions so no one person can dominate and we can get the material covered.
- You will still hear my voice, and see my slides. The slides will be presented as I speak.
- I can offer them more cheaply than I can public workshops or face-to-face coaching. In contrast to my 1-1 coaching fees which are $247.50 pr hr they will only be $69 per person. However, for the first one it will only be $25 per person. Yes, honestly. Just $25 (Australian) each. That is why I am so excited. I so look forward to having such expert input available so cheaply and being able to reach far more of you.
The date of the first webinar will be Thursday 29th October 2009. The time will be 10.00 am Perth, Western Australian time. PUT IT IN YOUR DIARY NOW.
Numbers initially will be limited to 20 so you have time for questions.
The first topic will be focused on giving you skills for the round of socials, client functions, parties and other networking events that will be coming up for Christmas. It will cover all the steps needed to introduce yourself to strangers and break into groups.
Bookings will be open in two weeks, but if you are keen to be a part of our very first webinar and want to book in earlier to make sure you get a place, then send us an email straightaway to
Just make sure you have checked the time. It will be 10.00 – 11.00 am in Perth, Western Australia. The time will be different outside WA and Australia. We will make sure that we offer future webinars at different times so everyone around the world can join in at some time without getting up in the middle of the night!
Welcome new readers.
Welcome to you if you are one of our 77 new readers from around the world, this fortnight. We have new readers in Australia, South Korea, South Africa, Cameroon, Canada and the USA. A special welcome to everyone who subscribed at the Leadership Forum I spoke at in Denmark WA last week.
Competition winner.
The winner this fortnight, of a free E-book from our range, is selene15, from Australia. If this is you, please contact us to claim your E-book prize by Sunday 13th September 2009:
2. The TOP TIPS: How to cope with change and the associated emotions.
Tip 1: Get a team of experts around you.
You are wasting your time trying to learn everything and do everything on your own. If there are people you know who understand all about a subject, a new piece of technology, or the latest way to do what you want to do, involve them. For example, if you are struggling with technology the expert may be a 17 year old who knows all about mobile phones.
I recently bought a new car. I had driven my previous one for 15 years and a manual one for over 30 years. You have guessed it, the new one is an automatic. I had no idea how to drive an automatic! So I got some driving instructions and had, for my first three days, someone sit in the passenger seat saying stop, go and don't change gears. This helped me stop trying to change gears or feel for the clutch, and it reduced my anxiety. It made my learning much easier, faster and safer too. Engage the experts.
Tip 2. Understand the emotions of change.
It is NORMAL to experience a range of emotions when undergoing change. There are two types of change: imposed change and chosen change. Both can produce a normal range of emotional responses. I emphasize NORMAL because many people I meet seem to think that excitement is the expected emotion when they have chosen a change. It is not. It is only one of many. Others may include anxiety, guilt, resentment, anger, depression, shock, relief ... and on the list goes. Know these emotions are normal.
Tip 3. Do not get stuck in emotions.
Emotions, per se, are not a problem. Even emotions such as anxiety can be useful. It is what you do with an emotion that matters. Emotions are a source of energy and a source of information. Pay attention to them and move through them. Allow yourself to feel your emotions under change.
When you are stuck in them it is seldom healthy, e.g. when you carry resentment for a long while, when you are anxious for days or weeks on end, when disappointment and sadness deepen into an enduring depression. Instead, allow yourself to move through them until you reach a stage of acceptance (or even excitement, if you are lucky.) This applies to health changes, ageing, career changes, relationships, coping with change in the workplace, and the like. Do not get stuck in emotions.
Tip 4. One step-at-a-time.
Learn new developments one-step-at-a-time. Do not dismiss them as too hard, not for you, or only for other people. Instead, learn what you can one step-at-a-time. I met a lovely lady in Denmark last week who, prior to last year, had never used a computer. Instead of dismissing computers she had started learning how to use them. Her first step, she told me, was learning to switch it on. Now she could do all sorts of things with it. Do not let the changes bamboozle you. Just learn them step-by-step. Our 84 year old Aunt used Skype for the first time last week – anything is possible!
Tip 5. Finding the positives.
"Find the positives" is such a well-worn phrase that it has almost become meaningless. However, it's still valuable. When a change is imposed on you it can be hard to adapt, finding the good things in the change can make it easier.
For instance, I was initially devastated when I received a diagnosis of low bone density, some time ago. It was a health issue I had never imagined having to face and certainly not at my age. I was having an exercise regime forced on me as a consequence - a change I did not like. However, there have been unexpected benefits, not least of which has been the extra time I spend each evening walking with my husband. I have come to love our evening walks together. It is a precious time. The bonus is that some nights we get to walk in the moonlight, or to see kangaroos in the paddocks or possums walking on the phone lines. The change has a positive side to it.
Find the positives and change will be easier to accept. Acceptance is what keeps us happy and sane and able to cope.
3. More tips on learning how to cope with change and anxiety.
Each month new tips are placed on our page of Personal Development Tips and Articles.
There are several sets on change and anxiety to read. Click on the links to read three of them:
- Ten tips on coping with change.
- Ten tips on talking to staff about organisational change.
- Anxiety: Ten tips on managing anxiety in an emotionally intelligent way.
4. Learn more ways to become relaxed and calm during times of change.
"Happy not hassled: Using meditation to manage your emotions and find contentment."
How much better would you feel if your mind were relaxed, you were calm and your life were easier to cope with, despite the changes? Imagine anxiety reducing, the rush of life easing and your sense of confidence rising, irrespective of what is happening around you. This is what can be achieved by doing the gentle meditations and applying the ideas you'll hear on these 2 CDs. Manage your emotions and be able to cope with change more easily. Feel good, now.
PLUS, as a special BONUS. when you buy the CDs no later than Sunday 13th September 2009 you will receive F.R.E.E. a one hour, full colour DVD of a live public talk I gave on: "How to use meditation to manage anxiety and pain".
Click here for more details.
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5. Laugh your socks off.
Thanks to our Confidence 4 U reader, Julie Bavin from Quairading Telecentre, for this fortnight's very short joke.
Joke of the Year 2009
Two women were sitting together, quietly.
If you have some clean jokes we can use, please send your contributions to
May your concerns ease and coping with change become easier. If your staff or organisation is going through change and it is not going quite as smoothly as you had hoped, I do run successful workshops for staff on coping with change and the associated emotions. It can help the transition considerably. Email for more information:
With kindness,
Rachel.
Further information for you
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Disclaimer: The information in this magazine is of a general nature and may not suit everyone or every situation. While every care has been taken to ensure it is useful and appropriate, no responsibility can be taken for the results gained from its implementation.
Please seek individual professional guidance for any difficulties you may have with coping with change, confidence, work, health, communication or emotions. Thank you.
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