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Written and published by Rachel Green.
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In this edition:
- The background to having a happy marriage or relationship, plus NEW WEBINAR bookings open.
- Top tips on how to have a happy marriage or relationship.
- More tips on maintaining happy relationships.
- Special offer: F.R.E.E. CD set, "A successful marriage: How to have a long and happy marriage and overcome the problems": Buy one get one F.R.E.E.
- Laugh your socks off.
1. Background.
What makes a happy marriage or relationship? Last week my husband and I celebrated our anniversary. We've been married for 35 years and more importantly are still happy together. We had a lovely evening and it reminded me of some of the steps for a long and happy marriage. How can you stay together and stay happy? Are there any rules for a happy marriage? How can your relationship work? Read on to the tips to find out.
Our New WEBINAR.
Our first webinar will be on THURSDAY 29th October 10:00am - 11:00am, Perth time, Western Australia.
Bookings are now open here, on a first come, first served basis.
Please check the time zone for you, e.g. 1:00pm in Melbourne, 12:00pm in Brisbane, 3:00pm in Auckland, Wednesday 28th 10:00pm in New York. Go here for the time zone clock: http://www.timeanddate.com/worldclock/converter.html
Topic: "How to introduce yourself to people (including strangers) and break into groups."
It is ideal for all the Christmas functions, parties and dinners you'll be invited to. It will give you the confidence to know what to do, so you do meet new people instead of standing back at the drinks bar or getting stuck with just one person.
What is a webinar? Quite simply it is a LIVE seminar held on your computer. You will hear me speaking, and see my slides.
The easy part for you is you do not have to travel anywhere. You get direct access to it whether you are in rural, remote areas, in big cities or small towns.
All you need is a computer, an Internet connection and the ability to hear sound through your computer. A camera is not required. If you want to ask questions live during the webinar you will need a microphone. However questions can also be sent in writing. Broadband is preferable, but dial-up will still work, just not as well.
Your level of involvement is completely under your control. You can be anonymous, no one else on the webinar need know you are there. This is ideal if you are shy, anxious, or famous. Or, you can send questions in advance. Or, you can type questions to me during the webinar. Or, you can ask a question during the webinar and be heard by the other participants.
Usually they will only be $69 per person. However, for the first one it will only be $25 (Australian) per person.
There are more details on our website at: http://www.rachelgreen.com/Webinars.html
We already have 5 people booked in and we're only taking 20, so book in now.
Welcome new readers.
Welcome to you if you are one of our new readers from around the world, this fortnight. Good to have you with us, please feel able to suggest topics.
Competition winner.
The winner this fortnight, of a free E-book from our range, is Caroline L, from Ireland. If this is you, please contact us to claim your E-book prize by Sunday 27th 2009:
2. The TOP TIPS: Five tips on how to have a happy marriage.
Tip 1: Quality time together.
A key ingredient in a recipe for a happy marriage or relationship is quality time together. We went out for a meal to a lovely restaurant on the night of our anniversary - just the two of us. We could have invited friends or family along but we didn't. We believe it is very important to spend quality time together as a couple. It is something we have done throughout our relationship and is a key ingredient in our happiness.
Despite everything that is going on, and we lead busy lives, we will check in on ourselves to ensure that we have set time aside for quality time together. Are you doing this? In can take some organising and pre-planning to do well, plus a commitment to your relationship as a couple, aside from your relationship as a family. The research shows that many couples spend as little as 6 minutes a day talking to each other. Make the time to spend quality time together.
Tip 2. Laugh your way to a happy marriage or relationship.
After our anniversary meal we came home. It was tempting to do our usual activities and get busy. Instead, we put aside everything else we had to do and got out our collection of comedy videos. We had a hilarious time watching some of them. Mike has the entire collection of Monty Python television shows on DVD (as opposed to their films). So we watched those and spent the evening laughing.
Shared laughter breaks seriousness, anger, irritation, resentment, anxiety and helps build love and intimacy. Let's have more laughter in all relationships then there would be more happy marriages. Sometimes though, you might need to go out of your way to create it. Laugh your way to a happy marriage or relationship.
Tip 3. Spontaneity and silliness.
What makes a happy marriage? Magic moments of silliness can help, we've found. We are prone to grabbing small moments to be spontaneously daft! It's funny and produces more laughter.
That night we were standing in the kitchen and I started singing the anniversary waltz. Not exactly in tune, so fortunately my husband took over and whistled it while we waltzed around our living room. We loved it. Every relationship needs its magic moments. They don't have to be expensive. You don't have to go out to find them, they're already available inside your home. Start finding them. Create your own spontaneous magic moments for a happy marriage and relationship.
Tip 4. Talk about happy times.
Other steps for a long and happy marriage include talking together and talking about happy times. I was astonished as we chatted on our anniversary evening that my husband could actually remember what we ate when we first met! He described the meal and then we talked about the best things we had done, the best decisions we had made, the happiest times we'd had. There was plenty to talk about.
Like all relationships ours has had its ups and down. Arguments, disagreements and problems are normal in any relationship. However, spending time focusing on these can further damage a relationship. It is easy to whinge and complain and be negative. It doesn't help. Focus on the good times and have a happy marriage and relationship.
Tip 5. No alcohol.
Happy marriages don't need to rely on alcohol to make them. Many people rely on alcohol to help them celebrate, feel good and laugh. Sadly, alcohol has destroyed or injured more relationships than it has helped. Because alcohol lowers inhibitions, the more alcohol people drink, the easier it becomes to say and do hurtful things. Once hurtful comments are said it is very hard to undo the damage. Sometimes therefore, having no alcohol and being able to relax and have fun without it can help relationships.
Surely as couples we still have the ability to relax, laugh and enjoy situations without it, don't we? We had no alcohol on our anniversary and it was lovely. It meant no hurt and much laughter and no hangovers. Nice! We still had a happy marriage the next morning too.
3. More tips on maintaining happy relationships.
Each month new tips are placed on our page of Personal Development Tips and Articles.
There are several sets on relationships and marriage for you to read. Click on the links to read three of the newest ones:
- Happy relationships, ten tips.
- Ten Tips on How to Maintain a Happy Marriage.
- Keeping love in your relationships, ten tips.
4. More ways to have a successful marriage.
"A successful marriage: How to have a long and happy marriage and overcome the problems," by Rachel and Mike Green.
Would you like to have a long and happy marriage? Would you like your problems to lessen and your love to increase? Would you like to save yourself the cost of a divorce? You can.
Amidst all the celebrity failed marriages we see, and the marriage advice that is too theoretical to apply, here is something different, something you can trust. It's down-to-earth and worthwhile marriage advice, from a husband and wife who've been together for over 35 years and are still happy.
Mike and I have been brave enough to invite you behind the scenes of our relationship to hear an unscripted conversation about what makes it work and what we get up to! And it isn't necessarily what you'd expect. This is a unique, frank and intimate CD series. It's not theory, its not celebrity, it's not make-believe - it's a real view, of a real marriage as it's never been heard before.
What we hope for, more than anything, is that it will give you something different to talk about; something specific to discuss; something to inspire you to find out what works for you.
Gain the confidence to make your marriage feel awesome. How wonderful that would be.
Click here for more details.
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Bonus: If you buy these CDs on the website no later than Sunday, 27th September 2009, then you will receive a second copy of the CDs for F.R.E.E. worth $55. Give them to a friend and help them too.
To be eligible for the extra copy you must order through our On-line Book and CD store and click newsletter when it asks you where you heard about the CDs. Don't miss out - hurry as this offer closes, Sunday, 27th September 2009. This offer is ONLY available to CONFIDENCE 4 U Readers.
5. Laugh your socks off.
Thanks to our Confidence 4 U reader Kim Page for this fortnight's clean joke.
Squirrels.
Q: How do you catch a Squirrel?
A: Climb up a tree and act like a nut!
If you have some clean jokes we can use, please send your contributions to
May you have love in your hearts for each other and make your own recipe for a happy marriage.
With kindness,
Rachel.
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